In Kind
Welcome to In Kind, a show about self and other empathy. Hear actionable advice from experts around cleaning up your self-talk, aiming for imperfection, and the importance of releasing emotions. In some episodes, I guide anonymous guests through the release something they've held inside for years . Recognizing how similar we are as emotional beings produces profound healing, closure, movement and motivation. Benefits apply to all relationships - life, work, and most importantly the one with yourself. Feel free to contact me julie@lightinguprooms.com
Episodes
33 episodes
33. How To Release Family Heirlooms and Possessions - Guilt Free!
Have you ever tried to get rid of things that someone else gave you? A piece of furniture. Or someone's favorite dishes or ring or artwork. These things carry emotional and energetic weight! This episode packages the most amazing, ...
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32. How to Take IMperfect Action, and Own It
Perfectionism got you in its grips? My hand's up! And it's all of us to some extent - in fact this one's born from popular request. But what if we did the opposite? When we aim for imperfection, we get an immediate energy shift a...
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31. Bringing Emotional Release for Men Into the Spotlight, with the Mankind Project
Where are we in 2021 on definitions of masculinity? Is there any difference between how men and women 'do' emotional release? Today I'm talking with Boysen Hodgson from the Mankind Project, an internati...
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30. From Suicidal to Self-Love: Reframing I'm Not Enough, with Evan
What do you do when you believe you're not good enough in ANY aspect of your life? Evan is here to tell you that you're not alone. He shares tons of tactics and practices that have helped him move through suicidal ideation, financial crisis, ac...
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29. Expert Hour, No Bad Parts! IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz Shows Us How to Empathically Lead Our Internal Family of Selves
In this episode you’ll learn that we all have an entire family interacting inside of us! They are called parts. None of them are bad, and we can learn to become the leader and healer of our Self. Harvard Medical School Psychiatrist...
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28. Three Thoughts: How to Get Better at Being a Beginner
Being a beginner happens ALL the time, whether you're 5 or 95! Beginnings are things like speaking up at a meeting, asking someone on a date, learning how to use new technology, becoming a parent and grieving the loss of a parent. We experience...
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27. How to Stop Measuring Your Self Worth by Your Productivity, with Tessie
This is so common! We've lost touch with our intrinsic value and we look to others to assign value to us. Tessie talks about her own experience of how this fallacy developed, how it can turn into physical illness and depression, and - drum roll...
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26. Three Thoughts: Happy Birthday In Kind!
Today I'm celebrating In Kind's first birthday by reflecting on what I've learned about myself and humanity in the last year. I talk about experimenting with another form of letting go, specifically time. I've been experiencing 'time-free...
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25. Expert Hour, Neurotheologist Dr. Andrew Newberg on the Religion-Brain-Empathy Connection
Neurotheology? That's not a word you hear often. It's an emerging field that studies what's happening in the brain when people are in deep spiritual practice. We know that the more we use certain neural pathways the stronger they get...bu...
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24. Three Thoughts: I Am Becoming - A Self in Review
What do you do every day that lights you up? What pulls you down? If you're like me, you probably have meager accurate awareness of how you actually spend your hours. Instead of focusing on what we failed to do this year, and making the same pr...
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23. Part II Escaping a Cult at 30, with J.
Have you answered the question from last episode - what ratio of who you are is of your own design? Think about it as you listen to J reform her identity in her 30s. She gives us lots of golden nugget resources and tools for anyone - cult or no...
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22. Escaping a Cult at 30 - Learning to Live as a 'Wordly,' with J.
‘Worldlies’ is what the cult calls those who live on the outside. Never feeling like she fit in, and unable to express herself, J erased her identity to survive into her 30s. In Part I, we get into her self-talk, how she developed a fear of bei...
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21. Three Thoughts: Empathy to Action - It Starts with Ourselves
Did you know that empathy is a learnable communication skill? It's not a personality trait - something we either have in spades or are void of. To understand and practice meaningful [actionable] empathy, some fog must be lifted. Definitions, se...
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20. Living Joyfully On Death Row: Cultivating Self and Other Empathy, with George
What would happen if we abandoned the pursuit of happiness, in favor of joy? How are they so different? Artist, author and death row inmate George first came on the show to let go of perfectionism, but we pivoted in the last 60 seconds of...
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19. Three Thoughts: Self-Talk, Meet Empathy
Do you recognize when you talk to yourself? If I asked you in a crowded room to raise your hand if you believe you are empathic... would you hesitate? This episode is about the relationship between how you talk to yourself and your capacity for...
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18. An Out of Body Experience Sparks a Spiritual Journey, with Kate
Perfect timing for this episode. Kate is a deep thinker and a spiritual light. But this was hard-won. Her paranormal encounter was invalidated, and having her truth dismissed became a theme in her life - one that landed her three months in a ps...
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17. Three Thoughts: Comparison & Ways to Fend It Off
Calling out comparison today and exposing it for what it is - an energy-stealing force that has no seat at the empathy table. It’s a Harry Potter boggart-style beast that's fond of bursting out and putting us face to face with our greatest fear...
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16. The Importance of Validating a Child's Feelings, with Minnie
Minnie grew up in what she calls a hostile environment, with narcissistic parents incapable of creating a safe or nurturing home. She spent years longing for her mother to take care of her, instead of the other way around. Along the way she lea...
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15. The Softspoken Badass: Tackling Fears and Uncovering Your Hidden Wisdom, with Jeremy
Do you know what your hidden wisdom is? Most of us don't. Jeremy is a self-described introverted communicator. Although he's built and sold several businesses, he works with major anxiety around public speaking and being a strong communicator e...
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14. Expert Hour, Self-Talk Author Dr. Shad Helmstetter on Overcoming 140k No's, Ignoring Second-Hand Self-Talk and Cleaning Your Mental Apartment
Have you ever stopped to listen to the things you say to yourself? Out loud or in our heads, we hear thousands of messages a day and sadly - most of them are hurtful and keep us stuck in our limiting beliefs. Self-talk is one of the main topics...
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13. A Modern Immigrant's Identity Crisis, Sliding Doors & The Power of a Team Jersey, with Noam
Noam is an Israeli born to British parents, living in Silicon Valley. Growing up, he promised himself he'd never live apart from his family. But now his children are born in the US and he finds himself between three cultures - but belonging now...
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12. Moving Through a Decade of Imposter Syndrome, with M.
This is the most universal of episodes. Who hasn't felt like an imposter? M is a music and orchestra teacher who still feels it heavily in her work after nearly a decade. We talk about one of the cruelest mind tricks of all - believing that we'...
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11. Perfection, Porn Addiction and Positively Reframing Childhood, with Tobi
Tobi felt invisible growing up. He managed his parents’ marital problems as a teen to keep them from divorcing, and his siblings from more chaos. After becoming a father himself and seeing how family patterns played out in his adult life, he we...
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10. Expert Hour, Holistic Healer Kacey DeGuardia Leads Us In a Metta-Meditation
How often do you look yourself in the eyes and really see who you are? For most of us, it’s rarely-to-never. Kacey is an incredibly gifted healing force, and today she’s leading us through a reflective practice called metta-meditation. When the...
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